Years ago, a dear friend of mine called me and asked me how life was. It was one of those days, when things were little rough, so I gave my cliched response, that I’m bored and tired. He paused for a while and said, you know something, you would never be better unless you really know what your purpose is. I smiled to myself and we continued our conversation. But for some reason, his statement was lingering in my mind.
Next few days it continued to haunt me. Then one day it dawned on me. That I’m so much focused on the ‘means’ while ‘end’ to me seemed to be just a mirage. So the question was, what is the end? Let this be a pending thought, we will perhaps figure later
If someone should ask you this question, what is your business, I mean S4M’s business, what would you say?
Well, one may say, we are in mobile apps development business, or digitalization of services, software solutions and so on. Now pause…..Is this really what we do? It may seem so, if one is merely doing a job for the purpose of existence. Now lo and behold! Does things change the moment you think other way around, as in you exist for a purpose? No, I think not. By merely thinking about something without internalizing it, feeling it and let it overwhelm with a sensation that is palpable, it will be one of those feel-good fleeting thought. Unless you experience this sensation, you will be merely doing a job. At best you will be fulfilling your material desires in life. What about physical (please read as health & vitality), social, mental and spiritual? If they are not harmonious, you will be like a relay team that is as good as your weakest link.
So how to achieve this balance? To create a wholesome harmonious effect. Some activities may help you realize this.
- Becoming aware– You can’t live a life of pretention or live a life of someone else. It is necessary that you understand the purpose of your existence. To understand the purpose of your existence, you got to first accept yourself with all your perfections and perceived flaws. Perceived flaws do not confine to just physical but things like, social perceptions-race, nationality, class and also circumstantial conditions like, education, skills, knowledge etc. Once you become aware of yourself, you will also become aware of your strengths even though those strengths are common and the fact you have that strength with all your resources, makes you unique. Imagine that you have a reasonable IQ and then you may have a great memory or an eye for fine arts, or passion for new technologies and so on, gives you that advantage where people with similar combinations are hard to find.
- Letting go of the past– The past is only a memory. It’s like pictures stuck in an old album at your grandma. Indeed, your current status is a result of choices you made from the past. But if you are bitter about some experiences or have a sense of guilt or regret, you are stuck there. Yes, they must have been your mistakes or someone’s deliberate effort to hurt you. But how good is a thought that is defective riddled with pain? In fact such thoughts are like cancerous cells. They hurt other cells and weigh down on them. So the technique is to go into those thoughts, examine them, accept them and then speak to them as though they are little kids and tell them it’s time to part ways.
- Becoming aware of your self-worth. Self-worth, like the word goes, is knowing your self ‘worth’. It doesn’t matter what your spouse, parents, teachers, friends, colleagues, bosses, think or thought about you. What do you think about yourself? It is purely determined by your purpose in life, your sense of well-being, your ability to deal with challenges that life throws at you and overcome it, your desire to learn, to be kind and generous. When you are aware of these qualities in you, you will know your self-worth and become insulated to noises around you.
I know the above are easier said than done, but a conscious relentless effort over a period of time gets you accustomed to habits that nurtures your soul and mind. You will soon be heading toward a peaceful and fulfilling life rather than a life of anxiety, boredom & apathy. Your work will become more meaningful and in fact, it no more will be work and you will look forward to it every day, every minute.
So going back to realizing worthwhile work, it is essential to realize the larger purpose of your work. If a farmer doesn’t realize he is the source of nourishment of a larger community soon he will be bored & stoop to adulteration or malpractices. If a school teacher doesn’t realize she is the catalyst to a better future of this world through a better generation, she will be merely lecturing without teaching . So, you as a developer, QA, designer or support services, you need to realize that you are part of a team that is enriching the life-experiences of a larger community, the city and then the country. Life will become more worthwhile. You will live every minute.